Sometimes the thoughts in our mind lead us to believe that we are being selfish when we say no but actually it’s okay to be a little selfish. What can you give when you have nothing left. I mean what do you give when you have nothing left. What can you honestly do for somebody else.

A lot of us find fulfillment helping people but even in that, sometimes you have to stop. Take a break and give yourself time to be built back up. So you can get out there and be the most effective that you can be. Sometimes we make a mess out of things when we don’t stop and deal with the things that we have picked up along the way.  Or deal with our personal stuff. We have to unload baggage and deal with the things that people have done to us.

My mom used to say “it’s piling up on you!” When I became an adult, I use that in a different context. You go through this, you suffer through that, and it piles up. When you don’t release that stuff it becomes stress. It’s important for self-care not just to get your nails done, massages and stuff like that, but just to give your mind a break and your heart a break from everybody else’s mess.